If you are feeling dragged down and the heaviness of life is bearing down on you, try one of these 7 Ways to Lift Yourself Up RIGHT NOW.
I don’t think I am the only one who goes and goes and goes until their battery fails. I know I should be setting time aside for myself daily to reflect and practice some self love and lift myself up, but it can be so easy to forget about myself when I am busy doing life. Every once in a while my pot will boil over and I know it is time to reset. Here are some of the things I do to dig out of the trenches that I often make for myself.
1) Move. Get away from the computer, leave your phone on your desk and walk away. (Just finish reading this post first, please) I don’t care if all my social feeds show me are positive and happy memes or daily inspiration quotes – sometimes I just need to walk away. I hate the feeling of being so attached to my gadgets sometimes. I don’t need to be seeing everything that is going on in Facebookland or in the Twitterverse all the time. As a matter of fact, when I step away from these things I am more productive in other areas of my life, I have more patience for the people that are physically in front of me and I generally feel more in tune with myself. Yes, getting away from the computer can be difficult when it is your job – so take just 10 minutes to step back and actually focus on something that you are able to physically grasp with your hands. You might have some filing to do at work, maybe your plants need to be watered, maybe you need to look out a friggin’ window and see what the outside world looks like. If you have the ability to do so then got for a short walk around the block. Go get the mail (in the actual mailbox and not your email) and look around you while you do it and not just at your feet as you take your steps. PHYSICAL ACTIVITY HELPS. Physical Activity is one of the easiest ways to give your mood a lift and shift your mindset.
Center yourself and remember that you are a wonderful, physical person and not just a social media profile.
2) Write down a gratitude list. Take an actual pen, actual paper and write down at least five things you are thankful for. If you can’t think of five things you are thankful for, you can’t be living. This is one of the number one ways I make my self-centered ass take a back seat. If I am feeling angry with my husband or frustrated with my toddler – I write down what I am thankful for. Often those things I write down are things I take for granted every single day, yet they are things other people don’t have and would do anything to get.
- I have a husband who loves me unconditionally.
- My children are healthy.
- I have great, lifelong friends.
- My car is not broken (currently).
- Coffee exists and I get to drink it whenever I want.
I can’t describe how silly I feel after I write down my gratitude list and then think about why I was angry or feeling low.
Your list may not look anything like mine and if I saw your list I might even be jealous of the things you have in your life that I don’t. Food for thought.
3) Set yourself a personal goal and make a plan. Some of us need something tangible to work for and I am one of those people. Yes, if I just write down a goal I get super overwhelmed and usually end up scratching it. However, if I actually make a point to think about an action plan for hitting that goal (which usually involves a series of mini goals) I feel so much better.
If your goal is to save $100 you could start by skipping the afternoon coffee runs and putting the $3 you were going to spend in a jar – do the math and see how many days you will need to do that before you hit your target. (Hint… it is 33.3333333333+)
If your goal is to lose five pounds, do you think it is going to happen without having some sort of plan? No. Again, a pen and paper can come in super handy at this point. Plan your meals, plan your fitness and make it happen.
4.) Finish something you started. Nothing makes me feel the crushing weight of my anxiety more than when I have projects hanging over my head. This kind of goes hand in hand with the idea above in number three. No, I don’t mean cutting off a limb to lose those five pounds, or selling that said limb to raise your $100. What I am talking about here is finishing a mini project that you can complete right now to help set yourself up for success. Finish making that money saving jar, meal prep for the week – frig, go wash your windows, that you have been putting off for the past three months, so you can actually see out them enough to view the world around you. (Am I being figurative here? You be the judge.)
One less project hanging over your head and one step closer to have a goal smashing plan is always a good thing. I am slowly getting over the procrastination mindset and I have to tell you that my experience so far is a calmer and more efficient me.
5) Plan to see a friend or a family member you haven’t seen in a while. If you are feeling isolated and out of touch, it is time to come back down to earth. Hopefully, you have someone in your life that can help center you. If they are not physically near you, plan a time to Facetime or even *gasp* call them on the telephone.
Sometimes all we are lacking is a little human connectivity. This is for everyone – introverts and all. I see you introverts cringing and I feel for you, but you know as well as I do that even sitting in silence with a friend can break that shell that surrounds us.
Not only is this a great way to lift yourself up, but I can with almost 100% certainty tell you that you are also giving a lift to that friend or that family member up as well.
Your company is enough. It doesn’t have to be an all nighter or some fancy dancy dinner date. Being with someone, showing them that taking the time to be with them and allowing yourself the time to have some real and honest companionship forges bonds and these bonds are what keeps us grounded, happy and looking forward.
6) Compliment someone. Yep, so this one may seem a little counterproductive, but I assure you it is not.
For some of us, approaching someone and giving them a compliment feels intrusive, but when that compliment comes from a genuine place, it fills us up. Knowing that you have brightened someone’s day even just a little bit sets the wheels in motion for more positivism in other areas of life.
Is there someone in your life that has a quality you admire? Do you know anyone who deserves to be recognized for their hard work or something they have created? Let them know they are appreciated and their effort has not gone unnoticed. It may light a fire under them as well and who knows how far the positive fireball can go.
7) Meditate. Woah. This may seem a little out there for anyone who has not been introduced to any type of meditation practice – whether that even just be in a yoga class, or not – but the benefits of meditation span over a wide range and I fully embrace the idea that meditation can aid us in various aspects of our lives and lift our spirits.
Meditation can begin at any time. You don’t have to have a full hour to yourself to sit in silence or have a complete enlightening experience in the first go. Breathing exercises and relaxation techniques go hand in hand with meditation as well as self-awareness.
There are several different apps you can get on your phone or tablets. There is even a free 21 Day Meditation Series coming up from Deepak Chopra (meditation guru of the world) and Oprah (c’mon…who doesn’t know O?) that is periodically offered and has made a firm believer in the power of meditation from my own experience.
I can rattle one about the benefits of meditation – there is such a vast amount and the results vary so much from person to person that I think meditation alone could have its own series in this blog. Hmmmmm?
Five minutes. Just FIVE MINUTES of meditation can do wonders. Try it.
Interested in more mindfulness practices? Check out this post I recently wrote! Mindfulness: Creating a New Beginning.
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What are some ways you have found help you lift yourself up? Share in the comments below – you never know, you might have the advice someone is looking for – put it out there.
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